Un-WANTED (Danny Kojima)

All of us of course, want to have sex. We want the fun, that’s what Freud told us when he made his theory about libido. We want the fun, but we hate something after that fun, which is our consequences.

We want sex, we want fun, but of course we have to be responsible after what we did. Pregnancy—the cause, the responsibility that we will get if we have sex all the time without control.

For men, after the women got pregnant, there are 2 choices. 1: be responsible, get married (often called MBA); or 2: left the women, which is run away from your responsibilities that makes you become a loser for the rest of your life.

For women, when you got pregnant, there are 2 choices too. 1: be responsible, keep your child with everything that you had, whether you’re alone or together with someone close to you; or 2: run from your responsibilities, which is, abort your child. Somehow, abortion is something that most of the women choose for. Run away is maybe a way, but will it makes your feelings become better after you make something wrong?

Before we go to the feelings, let’s discuss about the ‘un-wanted’. There are so many reason why someone want to abort their infant, maybe it’s because medical state that make them have to abort their infant, because, the error in the infants could kill the mother and the infants it self. That what we can see from the medical perspective, but is it so for them who actually have a healthy child and want to abort their child?

Most of the women who abort their infant is maybe because they got pre-marital pregnancy. And they think that, their child is their burden for their life, so they choose to abort them. Actually what is abortion? Abortion is the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of the embryo or fetus (Merriam-Webster Encyclopedia). In medical world there are 3 kinds of abortion. (a) Spontaneous; (b) Medical; (c) Artificial.

Spontaneous happened because it’s natural without any intervention. This could be because the quality of the infant itself is not sufficient so the infant died inside the woman’s womb. Usually this is called miscarriage. But for artificial, which is you did it by your own decision and you know the infant is actually healthy, but you murder your own infant and you also know about what you did. The last is medical, this is happened in medical term because the mother of the infant is having some medical sickness that can affect the infant, like having a high blood tension. Sometimes, it can threathen the mother and the infant themselves, and it can ended with dead for both of them. Of course, this is a special case for medical term itself.

That is a glimpse about abortion, we will not talk about the medical term, but we will talk more about the feelings of the mother and the father who did abortion. No matter what kind of abortion that happened in their life, they will get some feeling after the abortion. The change of this feeling is what we will discuss.

Their feelings

Imagine this, you kill someone, your close friend, and you’re happy about it. Either you’re psychopath, or a friend eater that will kill your best friend only for your own selfishness. It’s affect for men and women who did abortion. Just imagine how cruel it is for murder your own blood and flesh, your own kin. But some of the people still think, “It’s not my body, so it will be okay.” Or maybe, “There’s no life form inside the infant, it’s still be okay.”

Maybe that’s what you think and that’s how you feel before you kill the infant. But what will you feel after you abort your infant, when you feel something that is gone from your body? Some of the women will feel guilt, hatred, and shame to themselves. They always regret for what they did after they abort their infants. Try to watch this video.

“A part of me die that day,” said Denise who is regret her abortion from the video in YouTube. Most of the women feel that way, but what about men? Maybe men concealed that feeling and try to move on, but they also feel the same, well, most of them, but we never know because there’s no confession from men about abortion.

“Your eyes saw even the embryo of me, and in your book all its parts were down in writing, as regards the days when they were formed and there was not yet one among them.” (Psalms 139:16). God himself already think the life is precious when it’s still in embryo.

So before you want to abort, think about you kill your own friend or you kill your own father, mother, brothers and sisters.

And in case a men should struggle with each other and they really hurt a pregnant woman and her children do come out but no fatal accident occurs, he is to have damages imposed upon him without fail according to what the owner of the woman may lay upon him; and he must give it through the justices. But if a fatal accident should occur, then you must give soul for soul.—Exodus 21:22,23. (New World Translation)

1 Oktober 2013