Why 'Marriage'? (Vivian Amelia)

"I vow to love you love life, to always hold you with tenderness
And to have the patience that love demands.....
To speak when words are needed, and to share the silence when they are not.
And to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home."

This is the Vow that Paige made to Leo in the film "The Vow" 2012.

      Yes, we will talk about marriage this time. :)
I always very love a quote. It says that:
"We are all angel that only have one wing, that's why God had created another wing in another person shoulder, and so we can hugged each other and fly...."

Marriage. Definitely, it is an important phase in our life.
To be married with someone, is to be engaged in a relationship, and commitment.
Yes, commitment.
Commit to be always there, in any conditions, facing difficulties together, and bringing the happiness together.

I remembered for not long time ago, one of my friend ever asked me.
"Why we should be married? Why it is not enough to just love each other?"
Well, instead of saying something theoretical, i just answered her,
"Well, marriage is there because, we would want to make our partner become family."
Not just a close or intimate friend/partner, but to make you be my family.

     Why it is so important? Because, by marriage we can share a lifetime events with someone, bear children, bring up a family of our own. It have to be committed, because it is in ourselves and need.
Maslow had defined the term "love and belongingness" in the hierarchy of our need.
Belongingness, it is the feeling of own someone, something in love.
And, that is our need.

    Of course, not every people in this world are married, what happened to those who gives their life to serve people and God?
Well, I thought they had found the "love and belongingness" in some ways differently, and uniquely.

     And please let me be honest here,
I have been thinking bout divorce that happened in marriage too.
We, can choose another way. We, always can make decision in our life.
If separating, can make the both of you better, why not? Why try to stick together and making the second mistakes in life?
But, therefore, it takes many process to make this decision.
Well, in this context, I mean, separate for sure, not for temporary.

Many things in love, need direct experience, not just some statements.
So we can understand and know it well.
Remember, to always take care of this heart.
No hurry in love, one step at a time.
Believe in God arrangements!

For me, it is the best when we together with our partner, not just leading a life socially,
But we too must lead a life spiritually.

18 September 2013