the importance of communication between couples (Dionisius Ferdi Weros)

Communication is a very important component in marriage. Conflicts and problems usually arise because of lack of communication between couples. Lack of communication range from daily life to sex life. We can't deny that sex life is very important for young married couples. Problems within sex life could cause arguments which sometimes leads into divorce. One of the most main problems in sex life is women's lack of sexual satisfaction. Although there are many other factors that contribute to lack of sexual satisfaction, the common reason is because women rarely reach orgasm. According Zoya Amirin, M.Psi., in some cases, women could still achieve sexual satisfaction without orgasm. But, I have to remind you that it only occur in some cases, it's quite rare.

There are so many reasons for lack of orgasm usually because of lack of foreplay. In some cases, the women's sexual script dictate her not to enjoy sex. In conservative countries like Indonesia, women's sexual satisfaction is usually shunned. Women are not allowed to enjoy sex at all because sexual satisfaction belongs to men. I think this is why communication between couples become very important. Just by saying that they don't get enough foreplay, women can easily solve the first problem. Yes, we can't deny that communating about sex is sometimes uncomfortable for certain people, but it can help a lot in building better sex life. Solving the second problem is much more tricky. Talking to their spouse about their desire to enjoy sex might help them a lot in achieving sexual satisfaction.

I think that every couple have the right to enjoy sex according to their needs. They can experiment with different sex position as long as they communicate with each other. Communication work wonders in improving sex life. Being creative is also very important in spicing up sex life. So, besides a lot of communication, a lot of creativity is needed in marriage.

So, what are you waiting for? Start communicating with your spouse and start being creative when you talk with your spouse. Remember that you need a lot of effort in a marriage. :)

8 Mei 2013