stress and sexual life (Dionisius Ferdi Weros)

It is stressful to have sex right now and I'm sure it will be an unpleasant experience. Sadly, at the same time, my spouse will be quite sad if I say that I'm not in the mood of having sex. We don't desire sex because we are currently under stress, but at the same time when we are unable to fulfill our spouse's needs.

In my opinion, this thought will usually occur in the mind of most married woman.

Stress is a very common thing nowadays for woman. Work stress, financial stress, and raising children will accumulate together to form a large amount of stress. It wouldn't be surprising that most woman wouldn't be interested in sex because the stress they receive from daily life events. Man and woman's sex mechanics are quite different in certain way and the most important factor for woman's sex mechanics to work is psychological factor, besides testosterone. Testosterone is the hormone that gives a lot of contribution towards sex desire. The problem is woman lacks amount of testosterone. (Women that have too high amount of testosterone will have manly features.)  This is probably the reason why woman compensates it with psychological factors.

Less stress becomes very important for women to have a satisfying sex. It is very important for husbands to realize this. If the your couple becomes to stressful, then stop doing sex for a while, take time, go somewhere nice, and enjoy a romantic dinner for two. The main point is to do something else that will reduce your couple's tension. Enjoying a message will be a wonderful experience. Don't forget to communicate your problems you had to your spouse. After a relaxing time with your spouse, hopefully her sex desires would improve.

Psychological help will be needed if the stress doesn't fade, but this is a rare case because usually the main problem is that there are no effort from husbands to alleviate the spouses' stress. Also, remember that great sex means great love. Love without effort is like building a bridge without no one working to build one.

28 Mei 2013