Sexual Problems Are Shared Burden of Both Sides, Ya Know? (Chlain Liunardy)

Looking back at what I read, I definitely read many books within my 23 years of life experience. Some of it are questionable, some are great, some………uh, I wish I didn’t read it. But there are two (well three if you count the side stories) reading that thing that pique my interest. I’ll just post their cover here……..Ugh, two of the cover are not safe to post here. Geez. Oh well I’ll just mention their names.

Futari Ecchi, Futari Ecchi For Ladies, and this one called Self. These three are in format of manga (Japanese comics), and they’re not suitable for younger age, since this manga dwells on mature stuff (I don’t think if this can be called mature stuff anymore, since in here, even youngsters are engaged in this kind of behavior. But that’s a common knowledge these days). But I personally see may things you can learned from these manga, surprisingly. Let me describe the manga in simplest manner (because spoilers are bad thing)

Futari Ecchi (and the For Ladies version) talks about two newlywed husband and wife, that doesn’t know hot to do ‘it’ (no explanation needed), and they learned during the progress of the comic. It also talk about things that surrounds marriage life. While Self………is a story about guy who can do ‘the actual stuff’ very well, but can’t go solo (things that a normal guy would know, naturally). These three manga also tell some interesting fact about the their respective problems (I still wonder if Youichi will do ‘that’ in the jungle gym). While the way of these manga are drawn definitely not convincing, it’s surely informative and entertaining. Give it a try. Protip? Be careful where you read it.

Remembering all of that reading make me wondering, marriage life definitely has unseen problems (besides the potential to throw plates on each other like a Frisbee). One of that, is bed problem. This probably are one of the fatal cause of people having divorce. I’ve seen enough in the dark corner to say this.

Like I said before, male are different from female, which can be aid in how they perceive sexual stimulation. Sometimes the males are too quick before even the female gets the good part. Sometimes, female can’t even feel the good part at all. That’s just one of many basic problems in ‘bed problem’ on marriage. Like a good relationship and happy marriage, sex also needs communication. Both parties needs to understand if their current problem affect both parties. Let’s say your husband have premature ejaculation problem. Not only you, ladies felt uncomfortable with it. Your husband probably have the biggest blow because of this, more likely questioned his ability to satisfy his wife or be a good father if he’s having a great deal of problem just to make love with his wife. See?

Marriage problems often caused cheating, indirectly, and cheating done with a no-elegant way may gives you STD, especially if you did it with a less-elegant hooker/gigolo.

Never take STD so nonchalantly, this thing could ruin both parties’ life. . Writings about STD often warns its reader about the danger of doing ‘backdoor sex’, especially if you have history of STD. You also need to remember that STD not always because of sexual behavior. True, most of it are because of it,but not all of them are. AIDS are avoided like a plague, but most didn’t realize that they’re safe to interact with (as long as you didn’t exchange body fluids). They need love the most.

Also remember that STD can relapsed if you’re not careful with it. For me, I feel bad for them, because they can no longer enjoy their sex life the way it was. Yes, they can be cured and may enjoy their sex life again. But, it won’t be the same like it was. Both of them won’t realized that their ‘fooling around’ may cause permanent damage for the rest of their life.

Never forget that child are often received the blunt side of the stick regarding STD. How many children are having AIDS because of their parents (which might or might not have related to unsafe sex)? Also……..ah, that case from JIS. I’m feel sorry for the boy, especially the state he is now. And all of that’s because of some folks are deluded by their own desire? For all I know, people who got arrested because of sexual crime are literally the lowest of the social hierarchy in the prison. Good luck with that, I have little to none sympathy to ya. And, I do want to give ya a punch in your face.

With all of that, I just want to encourage people who have sexual problems to not keep it for yourself, and try to consult sexologist about it. A happy marriage is what most people want. Safer sex are also important to ensure even more happy marriage life. Don’t fooling around, be faithful to your wife/husband, keep your genitals healthy and clean, and may you all stay together with your partner, until you fulfill that promise in your wedding vow.

You know the easiest way to have a happy marriage life? Never make yours like a soap drama. No need to have mistress, lovers, garden boys, flower girl, secretary, or any others involved in your marriage life. There.

It’s just that simple

27 April 2014