Psychology: Second Chance. Is it possible? (Vivian Amelia)

     Tonight I'll be posting bout a topic called love. :) I would say that this is a very common topic. But today, the view of love has given so many perspectives in our lifes. Including Psychology. Well, I'm trying to catch essences of what I have learned in class and connect it to what happened in the real life. So what you will be reading is my opinions and thoughts, and of course my own feeling about love (and intimacy) in ways of psychology perspectives.

     Love. When you read about this word, what has come to your mind? The face of someone you love? Things? Or maybe some places? Hahaha. The definition of love has many relatives. You can define it anything you like, and there is no wrong answer. But what is real for us is that, love is connected to feelings and thoughts. And every human-being in this world that ever borned, will receive love, grow with love and learning how to love.

     I believe that each of us who read this, have ever experienced love in so many ways. Now, let's talk about it. Has it ever come to your mind that can we have second chance in love? Sometimes, I thought bout it. :)

I believe some of us, have a moment in life where we regreted something that we ever done with our loved one.
I believe some of us, have a moment in life where we were flashing-back, and thought about how childish we were that time
and hurted the feeling of someone we loved.

Well, you know, psychology do researches bout love.
And love is a science.
What I have discovered, is that psychology helped us remind that love actually have some components. R. J. Sternberg says that love have 3 main components and that is passion, intimacy, and commitment. Well, I won't gonna repeat the lecture, because I'm not a lecturer. Hahaha
And couples, who had these 3 components believe will had something we called true love (consummate love).

     Love, is a relationship we made to someone. The love relationship is not all alone we go through. A good relationship will grow and grow more mature as the time goes by. A good love relationship, will not stayed the same forever. It will have some changes, will have challenges, that brought us (maybe) to who we are. Well, you know some of us really take a lifetime to figure out who love is. In my opinion, love come when we stop waiting. All the neuron in us, will tell. Like biologically if we met our love one, a hormon called pheromones will automatically bring out the sensation. And we loved the smell or you could say fragrance that our love one had. And maybe, we just think we love someone, then we love someone. And maybe, it is our need inside that made us love someone.

And so, back to the topic. Second chance. Will we ever have that?
The second chance to love him/her better than before. The second chance of love growing again. And of course, in a better conditions, that we've learned the mistakes from. Of not being so childish, of after regreting our past attitudes to him/her.
Only destiny. And only God knows.

So, please don't stop growing love in our heart.
So please, please love, love for once that have no regrets.
And lucky you, who had the second chance to be in a relationship with someone again, please, please love and make it works. Let it flow, let the love grow.
And for you, who have the second chance of loving others, please make it better than befire.
Love not only need the feeling of intimacy, of being closed together, but you must have passion. Intimacy and passion never brouht you to the end. So commitment will take your love to a feeling called forever.

26 Agustus 2013